“I messed up…”
*Dedicated to men and women in relationships who owe an apology, and their frustrated significant others in-waiting (for said apology).
Sparks. Chemistry. Honesty. Understanding. Trust. Happiness. Making memories. Messing up.
Ain’t love grand?
When it comes to matters of the heart, few relationships are spotless. With the occasional hiccup, every couple is tested to find ways to work out the kinks in their relationship. Everyone has different coping mechanisms. It’s all about learning to work together. A lover’s quarrel is as common as an orchid in a Manhattan hotel lobby. Commitment does not come naturally to everyone, but takes work over time. Love triumphs when two people humble themselves and take responsibility for each others’ feelings. Apologies play a big part in that equation. Tapping into when an apology is due, is admitting responsibility. When someone expresses discomfort or hurt by our actions or words, this calls for an apology. Sometimes it doesn’t really matter who is right or who is wrong. Sometimes it just matters that peace is made on both ends. An apology says “I respect you, your feelings matter to me, you are important in my life, and I am not giving up.” There is no need for a reason to get someone flowers, but when it comes to owing an apology, we’d say they are a most appropriate and loving gesture. Flowers say a lot of things, including “I’m sorry.”
It was a dark and cold winter night, when a well dressed gentlemen dropped by the L’Atelier Rouge studio just as we were closing our doors. ”I need your help, I messed up…” he gushed with fretful eyes. We knew just what to do. You see, when you’re in the dog house, flowers help to mend the problem by sending a powerful message of remorse. Maybe you said something insensitive. You weren’t as supportive as you should’ve been. You forgot to do something important. You did something foolish. You had a misunderstanding. Whatever it is, it can be fixed. As long as you go about it the right way. Making an effort to fix things is what counts in the long run. It takes courage to apologize because it requires humility and selflessness. Let’s be honest; it’s not always easy to put pride aside. Allowing ill feelings to fester will only build resentment, so seize the moment to redeem yourself before it’s too late. Don’t let your love life become a reenactment of a scene from “The Taming of the Shrew“. This is a time sensitive situation ladies and gentlemen! Humble yourself in the name of love, and just say you’re sorry. Here’s how…
”Sometimes I wonder if love is worth fighting for.
Then I look at you,
and I’m ready for war”
by Bernadette Lords